Making Memories or Making Perfect
As 2018 came to a close, how do you feel your holidays went? Many of us go to extreme measures to ensure things are absolutely PERFECT for friends and family. The collective consciousness has us all ramped up with anticipation, anxiety and worry about how things are going to turn out. People are often stressed, with holiday shopping, cleaning, decorating, planning, and executing what they hope will be the perfect event. That was me in previous years. I found that I’d get very strung out on the idea of everything being perfect. The perfect gift to light up my child’s eyes, the perfect turkey dinner, having my house spic and span for guests. And, in previous years, I was left worn out, and always a little disappointed, like there was a bar to reach, and I hadn’t made it. It discolored the memories, made me feel a little sad, and I would vow to do better “next time”.
This year, somehow, was very different. I avoided being pulled into the chaos that is happening all around us at this time of year. I did the bulk of my shopping online, or at our Farmer’s Market. I bought groceries through the whole of December, not just the few days before Christmas. I took time to clean a little each week, and have things already set up, or in place, before company arrived. There was no feeling of last minute chaos, no stress, no worry. I had moved to a place of remembering, it’s really all about the memories. It’s not about the perfect dinner, the perfect present, the perfect home. None of those things really matter.
This year, sitting around the Christmas tree with my family, was calm and perfect as it could be. Watching their eyes light up as they opened gifts, my own excitement with the gifts I received, and the sharing of stories for those gifts that were tough to procure. My heart was full of love, and peace. I enjoyed the day, the cooking of dinner, and setting up the table. I took memories of loved ones past, and ensured they had a place on our table through the lovely things handed down to me.
What I had realized is that we never know how our time will pass. We make memories together out of silly, insignificant things while we spend time together. I made a toast that brought up emotion in my father, which was around how grateful I was that we all could be together for this Christmas. They are aging, and I recognize that they may not be up for the trip again next year. I was in gratitude that I get to spend Christmas day with my children, as I share time with their father, and they wanted to be here. I was in gratitude for the health of my family, so we can continue to build memories together.
So many stories I hear are focused on how hard the holidays can be, and I understand. We have a tendency to resent some people around us, we are under our own personal pressure, as well as society’s, to have a perfect event, a perfect present, a perfect meal. You can choose what type of celebration you have, be it perfect, or is it calm, loving, and memory inducing. I’m in gratitude for all the wonderful people in my life, my family, my friends, and my wonderful clients.
Michelle Eskdale Gruendel January 1, 2019
The Gift of Shoeboxes in the Closet
At this time of the year, many of us are very busy, doing things for the holidays, finishing up on work, so we may take a break. Also at this time, we are often short of Vitamin D, and feel a little blue. Combining it with having the occasional memory, or flashback, this can really throw us off our game.
Have you ever noticed that sometimes a memory comes back to you, and totally derails your emotional state? Sometimes I’ll be tossed back to a time where I feel regret, sadness, guilt or pain, and am frustrated by revisiting an issue I had thought was long healed. I call this revisiting or going through the Shoeboxes in the Closet. The closet being your memories.
Interestingly, we have an Archangel in charge of how these memories come to you. His name is Archangel Jeremiel. I have worked closely with him for years before I knew he had a name, and a purpose for bringing those memories into the NOW moment. The purpose of bringing these memories to your attention in the NOW, is to show you how far you’ve come. He’ll show you how strong you are, and have been. It shows you that you can survive anything life is sending your way, and hopefully remind you of your own inner strength and ability to persevere.
When I was learning about the Archangels, I remember choosing Doreen Virtue’s deck Archangels Oracle Cards at a class I was in. Part of this class was also to teach us to lead a group or class in a meditation. Prior to this point, I wasn’t aware of more than about 3 Archangels, so when I was asked to do a meditation with Archangel Jeremiel, I panicked!
I’d never heard of him, and had no idea of what he can do for us. Going through my Archangel Deck, I found that his cards had a wonderful theme – Overcoming Difficulties, Life Review and Take Your Power Back. The Life Review really meant something to me. I was amazed that an Archangel could be helping me with that, as I just thought it was the way my brain worked. As I’m sure you do, I often find myself taking memories out of those shoe boxes, and reliving, feeling, the experience I’m seeing in my Mind’s Eye. Sometimes the memory is so powerful, the energy just completely takes me over, and I’m stuck in a feeling of sadness, grief, fear, or regret. For example, a memory of something I did when I was 15 years old can come back, and I feel immediately transported to my younger self, feeling sad, and guilty for upsetting my mother. Really, my 15 year old self did what she knew at the time and should be forgiven.
The way you can work with Archangel Jeremiel and these memories is to ask to be shown in Observer Mode. Remember, you can shift how you perceive something, purely by asking. When asking to see it in the Observer Mode, all emotion can be removed, and you can get the actual message that Jeremiel wants you to have. You can see how you overcame an obstacle, how you powered through when you were down, remind you to have faith in yourself and you or abilities. It’s amazing how powerful these messages can be, when you need them.
Next time you’re feeling blue because of a memory that came to you, please remember to look for the lesson. What did you gain or learn from the experience. How can you be in gratitude for the reminder, and what can you take away for an experience you are having in the NOW. I’m in gratitude for Archangel Jeremiel, even when I feel sad.
Most recently, Facebook showed me a memory from 5 years ago, when I was in the darkest sadness I’d ever felt. I remember that time, but I’ve been growing and being grateful for all the good in my life since then. I didn’t realize that it would hit me as hard, emotionally, as it did. To be instantly transported in my mind to a time when things seemed so bleak and sad. As no emotions are actually “BAD”, I reminded myself of how amazing I have been since then. What lessons I’d learnt once I’d healed that experience, and I can be grateful that Archangel Jeremiel and Facebook (LOL) showed me when I’d been at my lowest so I could see how far I’ve risen.
Be in gratitude for the memories, ask what you are being shown, and allow your intuition to guide you to clarity, and restore faith in yourself.
Michelle Eskdale Gruendel December 5, 2018
Cruise Control or Stop N Go?
Messages from your Vehicle about your Journey
What is your car telling you about your life? Like Louise Hay explains in Heal Your Body, energy trapped in the body, can cause illness. Interestingly, from my experience, my car can do the same thing. It makes sense, as your vehicle is an extension of you. It can pick up on your vibe, and respond accordingly. Over the last decade, I have enjoyed some interesting messages from my vehicle, that correlate to where I was in my life, and what I had to do to change that. Each part of the vehicle can respond to a physical human body aspect. Keep this in mind, if you are having trouble with your vehicle, what it may be telling you. We can be cruising merrily along in our life, when something comes up to make you stop and think.
The Universe showed me was wrong through a vehicle, and it was made apparent to me during a time of financial lack. I was working very hard, yet, not getting ahead. Each time money would find its way to me (outside of the job), I could spend it in many directions. Thus creating a stop n go feeling. I’d feel very well off, temporarily, until I looked at all the places I should put that money. So the Go feeling was when the money came in, and the wonderful high vibration of being able to spend it where I needed it. The Stop feeling came, when I realized that the money needed to be tripled to go in three different places, like bills, savings, and household budget. During this time, my vehicle was going through brakes on a yearly basis. Thus the energy of stop n go, was having an effect on my car, or being in parallel with my vibrational energy.
The next insight came with the very weird situation of my vehicle being impounded while I was away on a Law of Attraction cruise, ironically. I knew that I needed to make a significant change in my life, and move on from a partner who was not supporting himself or our family for a period of years. I kept making excuses that the other value he brought to the relationship, outweighed the lack of financial responsibility. In my heart I knew it wasn’t good for me to continue with the relationship, but fearing conflict, I wasn’t ready to make the change and ask him to move on. I had purchased this vehicle, and there was another of the same make model and age on the car lot. I found out afterward, it had been sold at the same time as my vehicle was sold to me, and I had been given the incorrect VIN (Vehicle Identification Number) for registration. During my brief cruise, I received a frightening message that my partner had been pulled over, in my car, with my children, while I was away. They had said the vehicle was not registered, and thus was impounded. I had to act quickly to retrieve the vehicle when I returned and sort out all the paperwork issues to have my car properly registered. The message to me from the spiritual end of things, was that I had to make some changes in order to prevent things from being lost to me, which I owned and valued. I needed to sacrifice the good in order to deal with the negative vibration that the situation was causing me.
Starting 10 years ago, I pay a lot more attention to how situations are affecting my ability to bring in and manifest what I need for my home, my family and my business. Whenever we have a delay or a drag in our income, or a frustration around money energy, there is likely a direct correlation around what we are allowing to continue, or how we feel about money somewhere in our life.
Over the winter, I had a tendency not to check the air pressure in my tires, due to a medical condition that makes it so I have no feeling in my fingers, once they get cold. Thus, I was rolling merrily along in my life, when we had a ridiculous cold snap, measuring 30 degrees below, Celsius. I’d not been able to check the air pressure in the tires, due to not having a garage, and the continuous cold temperatures. I went to drive the car, and felt like the tire was frozen solid (square tire). It made a lot of noise, and was vibrating hard as I drove. I knew I needed to stop and check it, but was on an expressway, with no safe place to stop. The roads were icy and frozen, covered with snow, and everyone was having a hard time driving on them. Finally, the noise became so loud, I knew something was terribly wrong, and had the opportunity to pull off in a safe place. The tire had actually blown apart, and took with it part of my car side trim. When I look back now, I was in a new relationship without passion, and it was as if someone had let all the air out of my love life.
The most recent, and the one that finally had me realizing I needed to put this on paper, was that a fuel injector in my car was mis-firing. This created an inability to accelerate quickly, thus putting me in danger of a collision when merging. The feeling was very jerky, and it made me feel the power of the engine, yet the hesitancy for it to move forward. When I discussed this with a friend, she asked where in my life, did I feel that jerky inability to move forward? Where was I experiencing a slowness to reach my desired speed, and where did that leave me for feeling vulnerable? It came down to my ability to earn and provide for my family. There is an outstanding amount due to me, and a frustration behind that. As Much as I have done to let go of the outcome, it continues to affect my vibration. It shows up as me being able to move forward quickly at times, yet with hesitancy, and even inability to move forward at times. This looks like passion and drive vs procrastination and depression. This inspired me to realize that I must move forward on the legal issues to have the matter settled. As much as I’d like to believe that I’d let go, and trusted it would be handled, it was time to take next steps to have the matter settled, as it is messing with my car, my peace and my ability to manifest.
What Is Your Car Telling You?
It’s interesting to see that a friend of mine, with a lot of illness in her body, often has scuffs, dings, or minor accidents that mar the body of her beautiful car. It frustrates her to no end, and it parallels her physical challenges with her health. Accepting that the car may get marks on it, may release her from some of this frustration.
Low oil, low fluids, running out of windshield wiper fluid, running out of gas, could easily indicate that you are not giving your own body what it needs. When you find yourself running low on fluids, take some time to nurture and give yourself food and fluids.
No energy, dragging, hard to accelerate?
Where in your life do you feel a lack of enthusiasm, passion, or interest? Are you enjoying your life, or just going through the paces?
You need to take more control of your life in general. Right now, there is too hectic of a pace to maintain, and you are being reminded that going too fast can cause health issues, and be dangerous to you. You are being reminded to slow down.
Broken or cracked Windshield?
How is your vision of your own life currently marred? Are you playing a victim, are you seeing things through unclear eyes? Making excuse for others instead of seeing things clearly and in truth.
Tie Rod Ends, Shocks, Ball Joints?
Often indicate you have been carrying a burden, or see your life and responsibilities as burdens. Similar to hips/lower back in the body.
I believe that energy can be paralleled and shown to us in other ways. Seeing your vehicle as an extension of yourself, can help you to see what the universe is telling you. Keep in mind that everyone experiences issues now and again with their vehicle. When there seems to be a string of incidences, or issues with a vehicle, meditate, and ask what am I being shown through this experience?
Copyright 2018 Michelle L. Eskdale
The Mirror Concept
Was born a happy child… people always assumed that I was happy and that nothing challenged me or made me sad. I was brought up to only show people the happy side, and left my feelings to friends that were understanding. The world at large always sees me as happy and optimistic.
Let’s look at the mechanics of being happy. It is a choice, a deliberate one that creates feelings of happiness, optimism and general well-being. We have a tendency to let our day to day struggles challenge us to the point of being unhappy. Are you happy right now? Or are you content in your current circumstance? When we are not being challenged or struggling with something, we are not growing. We are not learning, and changing as our souls were sent here to do. So, what does that mean to you? You can really and truly be happy. You can learn to shift your perspective and find that silver lining in every dark cloud. I want to show you how.
On a daily basis we are bombarded with choices, and options. What we choose defines our day. Take for example a stressful work experience. In this example, people around you have a tendency to be negative, and are comfortable with sharing their point of view on a regular basis. You have a choice every day of whether or not you allow that to colour your perspective of the world. Two people can have exactly the same role and not handle it the same way. If you look at it from an omnipotent perspective, you can see that what you send out, you will attract back. So, that being said, when you are positive, optimistic, helpful and courteous, your clients are as well. When you are negative, stiff, and stubborn, or short with people, you will attract the same. Everyone you come in contact with is a mirror to you, to show you how to grow and change for the better. Sadly, without perspective here, you will be more miserable when shown the mirror, and develop frustration, anger, or victim responses, doomed ‘poor me’ attitude that continues to perpetuate. I challenge you to take an honest look at your work style, and your personality that you are bringing to work.
The Mirror is not always comfortable, but it is definitely a wonderful challenge to the person willing to go within and figure out what is irritating them, or bothering them about someone else’s behavior. For example, a co-worker is rather full of themselves, showing a lot of ego in their choices and their comments. This really frustrates you, as you have been taught to let go of ego and be content with yourself. You honestly believe that you do not do things out of ego. However, they really rub you the wrong way, and your desired result would be a change in that person. Being honest with yourself, does your ego need a bit of a tune-up? Would you do better to see the person with empathy rather than judgement? And, do you dislike their behavior as it does, indeed, mirror something within you that you don’t share with the world?
Another good example is the need to be the centre of attention. From my own experience, it is delightful to be focused on and praised, and we crave it. The reason we crave it is that we are allowing others perception of us to evaluate ourselves, rather than already feeling comfortable and in a state of self-love. I was recently at a workshop where one of the other students was constantly verbally relating to all the teaching points out loud and sharing what seemed a lot of personal information. I was feeling like the course was becoming all about this person. Over time, I had learned to be quiet and listen as much as possible, as there are always lessons coming, and that I didn’t need to be the star pupil, even though a part of me would like to be. When this situation came up and I found myself becoming irritated, I had to honestly reflect that it was me being jealous of this person taking the stage. Once I recognized that she was mirroring to me, that part of me that wanted to be noticed and special, I found that I was no longer irritated with her, and no longer upset that she was asking for more focus on herself. In there, I found empathy, and hoped that she would soon recognize that she can go within for more acclaim, from her inner self-love. The lesson was important, as I now ask myself before I interject, is this about me, or is it something that others may benefit from? Also, to hold my tongue and realize that learning is a very important experience for others, and that unless I have something to say that would be a universal question or topic, it doesn’t need to be said.. It doesn’t have to be all about me, nor anyone else.
It takes time to make this work for you, and I challenge you to take a look and reflect, change what you don’t like or appreciate that is being brought up in you, with love. We all want to be the best, but just holding that close to your heart is enough.
The main reason that I bring up the mirror is that I want to help you to recognize what happens when you are not putting forth positive vibration, and good thoughts. The best place to see this, is in a scenario at home. Have you ever had a morning where things were just not going right?
You have a busy day, getting ready for work, getting the family ready and off to their specific venues for the day. You ironed a lovely white shirt and due to your haste and feelings of being stressed to complete all your tasks quickly, you spill coffee on that shirt. This leads to going to find an alternate, but you already have prepared yourself for a day of doom. That being said, making lunches, getting kids ready for school, your temper is shorter than normal, and you are brisk and temperamental with your kids and your spouse. Once enroute, you find yourself stuck in traffic and possibly being late for work. Now, how are you feeling? Stress, frustrated, and overall very negative. Do you realize you had a choice on the very first step to change how your own day went?
I know that many of us believe that we do not have control over events that happen around us, and to us. I believe we do, and have put it into practice. I wanted to show you, how you can change that day of doom into a positive and happy one.
First of all, when things happen that upset you, slow down, and choose how you are going to react. If you just said “no problem, I’ll grab something else to wear”, you wouldn’t create the further stress and agitation with the rest of the processes of your day. When you let the little things slide, laugh them off, and move forward, you don’t cause yourself further harm. Believe me, this takes practice, but I know you can make the shift.
Put a smile on, as much as you can. When we smile, its very hard to stay in darker thoughts. Negativity can just roll off of us and we can feel more in charge of how things are coming into our day and into our lives. Staying positive and optimistic does take a conscious effort, but only for a little while. How you choose to deal with your life and your mood and attitude is completely up to you.
Did you see that, did you realize I’ve told you that your mood is up to you? Often we believe that we have moods and we are powerless over them.
I have been described on a regular basis as annoyingly optimistic. It makes my chest puff up, as I recognize that I’m definitely on the right track and keeping optimism in the forefront of my thought. Good things come to me, I attract amazing people and good opportunities, all based on being optimistic and happy. People enjoy being around my energy as it’s not polluted with negative thoughts and comments. I love that the energy I put forth is welcoming and that people want more of it, it’s delightful. Plus, I have the bonus of being happy almost all of the time, because I chose to be.
How can you become more optimistic? It’s a conscious choice. Everything you come up against, you have a choice in how you react. You can choose what you want as an end result. Really, even the most negative circumstances.
I spent a lot of time in Call Centres in my corporate career. It used to surprise me that I was one of the only ones who didn’t get tough or bad calls, or at least very rarely entertained them. I started to reflect on the people around me, and what their water-cooler talk was about. They were struggling in other aspects of their lives, not loving their work, and in general had a negative feeling around them. So many of them were wonderful people, but they weren’t letting that show through, especially in their work.
I started to pay attention to the calls they were getting and how they were handling them. I saw that their negative feelings, whether obvious in their voices and manner, or not, were causing their calls to be challenging, negative and sometimes quite intense. They were getting the mirror of what they were putting out to the customers. The customers were sensing the discord and responding in kind.
I took note of the people who had very few challenging calls, and saw that they were gentle, positive, optimistic and courteous. They were helpful and had not only positive responses from the callers, but they also saw increased revenue on their calls. These things were not being measured by metrics that I have seen. It would be a helpful tool to be able to measure attitude in a call centre.
From observing the people around me, I also noted that these people had a general feeling of being content with most aspects of their lives. They had challenges and struggles as well, but they didn’t choose to be miserable over the things going on, they chose to meet them head on with optimism that things would work out for the best.
“no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should” from the Desiderata, Author Max Ehrmann… Sometimes we have to trust and believe that things are happening around us for a reason. The reason is a lesson, a challenge, or an experience for us to share with others at a later time, to assist them in their healing and growing. This phrase has sometimes led people to believe they are powerless over the outcome and thus they give up and grow negative over feeling out of control over their destiny. This needs to be reflected on with optimism, that there are reasons for things to happen the way they do, and we can fight them, or we can be peaceful and accept changes.
A method I have learnt that works well is to ask the Universe to bring my changes with grace and ease. We have a choice, even in how things come, to move through it gracefully, or to fight it all the way. When we fight the changes in our life, they really do become much more difficult, and we see that spill over into all the other facets of our life. An issue at work can quickly become an issue at home, with your spouse or your children, but if you choose to embrace change, you will start to see that your more peaceful demeanor will be apparent in all your other areas of your life.
Some people thrive on drama. I believe we are all guilty of it at some point or another, especially when we are up against significant changes in our life. Creating the scenario around what is happening to you makes your story more interesting, you feel, and gives you a greater sense of the world doing you wrongly. Your friends will at times enjoy your storytelling, but in time grow tired of you creating mountains out of molehills. To you, it is a mountain, until you learn to accept and ask what you are meant to learn from the situation. By asking, I mean going within and talking to God, Creator, the Universe or your Higher Power as you see it. Once you start to recognize that you are creating the drama in your own life, it loses its appeal. You embody being calm and capable of allowing changes in your life without fighting and dramatizing them. This can be a tough lesson, because, as we discussed before, we love to be the centre of attention, and our life might look boring to others without the drama. Trust me, it feels much better not to allow yourself to over dramatize. You only make yourself feel powerless and like a victim if you make that mountain greater than your ability to resolve what’s happening in your life.
Talking to the Expert:
We all have inner guidance, and a relationship with our Higher Selves, our God, our Angels, Creator or the Universe. It is a very private relationship that you do not need to define to others, but you know it as your inner guidance. For the sake of clarity, I’m going to call it your Higher Self. We came into this lifetime with everything we need to navigate through, and learn our lessons. Our souls have mapped out what we want to experience this time, but this is a secret to your conscious mind. Your Subconscious mind and your Higher Self know what’s going on and what you are meant to learn, or overcome. Through meditation and trusting your inner feelings, thoughts, images and voices, you will be able to become more in tune with the lessons you are here to learn. This leads to a feeling of acceptance of change, and understanding.
When you want to come in contact with this higher resource for yourself, meditation and daydreaming are a really wonderful method. Meditation isn’t as difficult as you might think, you do it all the time when you are daydreaming and coming up with wonderful ideas. That is tapping into your subconscious power, to your inner knowing. For those that are having trouble meditating, you likely are letting your conscious mind interfere, believing that the experience should be different. It’s really about relaxing and letting ideas flow, letting thoughts, pictures, and feelings come to you, and then interpreting them after the fact, not while you are in them. You can tune into your subconscious by changing some of your daily habits, brushing your teeth with the opposite hand, or changing another habitual ritual, it inspires your subconscious to open up and share with you. Often these thoughts and ideas need to be written down, as they are fleeting once your logical mind comes back into focus on them. Journalling or even having a notepad nearby when you are exploring your inner knowing can be very helpful.
Choosing to be or deciding to be happy is a full on spiritual experience. You are meant to be happy, have joy, and be prosperous. Society has created structures that challenge that by creating monetary challenges, relationship issues, deadlines, responsibilities and basically are pulling much of the joy from our daily lives. We need to choose to be happy, be hopeful, be optimistic and look at all the areas of our life that bring us down or make us feel negative.
I challenge you to take inventory on the next negative thing that comes your way. Stop yourself and ask, how am I going to perceive this? Am I going to let this affect my entire day, or can I see it for what it truly is, an accident, a challenge or a lesson? Once you start to face things optimistically, it gets easier and easier to accept, and the bigger things will be less negative and challenging.
Be happy for your health. Allowing yourself to stay in a negative state of mind actually causes dis-ease in the body. Medical science has found that increased levels of cortisol due to stress and anxiety deplete the body’s ability to function on a normal basis. When we react negatively and intensely to our lives, we empty the body’s resource and this leads to adrenal fatigue. This puts you in a state of always being tired, depressed and unmotivated. When you focus on the good in your life, and let the drama subside, you keep your body healthy. Happiness and joy release endorphins and dopamine, which are the good feeling chemicals in the brain, and bring an overall sense of well-being. Which would you rather have, and do you realize that your choices are possibly making you fatigued?
(Created 2/25/2015 Copywritten Michelle Eskdale Gruendel)
Honouring your agreements
Lately I have been noticing that people on a spiritual path have chosen not to honour their agreements with people who are supposed to be their friends. In order to be authentic, it is very important to be honouring and practicing your integrity. There are a couple of instances where I’ve seen people on a spiritual path choose not to fulfill their financial obligations to others. This is driving feelings of misunderstanding and hurt, as well as seriously damaging reputations. I know that many of you think that being spiritual should not allow money to become an issue, or that money has no place in healing. Money is only energy, and when you make an agreement to exchange energy with someone else, you need to honour that. By not fulfilling your end of the agreement, you bring about feelings of distrust and do not honour the person with whom you made the agreement. When we do work for others, in a healing capacity or in the corporate world, there needs to be an exchange. Would you work for a corporation for free? Why is it that some people think they do not have to follow through on their financial obligations with others? Is it a lack of respect? If it’s not at first, it certainly becomes one. The issue is with Karma and your ability to receive. If you do not follow through, you’re bringing on financial loss on your own situation, as whatever you put out you receive back threefold. So, if you’ve agreed to pay someone for a service, and you do not follow through, you tempt karma to send the same experience to you.
Part of the power lies within you. When you enter into an agreement, remember that your own energy plays a huge part. If you make promises, you need to follow through. If you are on the receiving end, you need to be able to trust the person with whom you’ve entered into the agreement. Often we are blinded to what we’ve heard about a person and their business dealings as they are considered a friend. We are optimistic that even though that person has hurt others, they will not hurt us. This is an issue with our own healthy boundaries.
I ask you to look carefully at those with whom you do business. To ensure you attract healthy business relationships, make sure the ones you have are in the highest integrity. Ask the universe to only send you people who are a vibrational match. If you are in integrity, are honest and authentic, you ask that only those people who match that vibration come into your realm for business dealings. Honour the experience of friends or family, and heed warnings before entering into financial agreements where there is doubt.
It saddens me to see friends being hurt by other friends who will not honour their agreements. I know that in my own life, these are experiences for me to learn from. My boundaries need to be healthier. My voice needs to be stronger when making agreements. When a friend or client does not honour the agreement we have made, I have to reflect on myself, and see where I allowed that to happen. In that, I find the lesson and my personal strength. Remember that what happens around you is often a reflection of you. Knowing that can help you improve relationships when moving forward. Knowing this can also help you to move forward, let go of the outcome, and allow the universe to take care of the situation for you. Continue to trust that money energy or agreements can be honoured in time. If they are not, know that it is time to move away from the person or situation. Honour yourself and your needs, allow yourself to be sad then heal knowing that the lesson needed to be taught.
The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom
Book by Don Miguel Ruiz
Be impeccable with your word.
Don’t take anything personally.
Don’t make assumptions.
Always do your best.
June 28, 2017
Have you ever really focused in on something that you want to have happen very strongly, and been overwhelmed with a sense of purpose? Purpose is an amazing thing, helps us climb the highest mountains and weather the greatest storms in our life. We are always stronger than we believe, and when we set out to get something done, the rewards feel greater, our soul sings when we conquer and we feel joy at the end of it.
Now, wouldn’t you love to feel more of that? I want to talk to you about your purpose. So many of us question what that is. For parents, it seems a little easier to define, as souls have chosen you to guide them and love them. But when they are ready to leave the nest, or if you have not chosen to be a parent, it can seem a little difficult to find your purpose.
Your purpose is to love and to help people. In whatever way, shape, or form your heart desires. So many of us are Lightworkers and Earth Angels who always help others, in some way. We find that we don’t know how to ask for help ourselves, and will often burn out from giving our energy away so freely.
Your purpose is defined as whatever makes your heart sing, gives you joy bubbling out of your chest, and is sometimes hard to define in terms of a job or career path. When you look at what you do every day, which parts of it make you happy, give you a sense of accomplishment, or a rush that you’re on the right track. For me it was Customer Service work. Now that I’m on my path, and know my purpose, it is still in the area of Customer Service. Being an intuitive counsellor is giving people the guidance to empower themselves to live their best lives. It’s an amazing purpose, and when I’m working with people, I have great joy in my heart.
When looking for your purpose, check in with your heart. What makes you happy? When do you feel the strongest, the most knowledgeable, and the most at peace. It could be anything, from creating art, to helping people heal, to saving and healing animals. It’s whatever you define as the thing you would choose to do, even if you weren’t being paid for it. The beautiful thing about it, is when you embrace your purpose, the universe conspires to bring you abundance for it. You only have to be open to receive.
I would love to help you to figure out what your purpose is, and how to turn it into something that will bring you abundance! If you are alreadya sure of your purpose and not sure how to get started working with it, I’d enjoy helping you with that as well. Come join us for one of our Workshops!
It’s a new year, and it’s an excellent time to take a good look at how we did last year. Did you find it a struggle to make things work for you? Many of us had a year of major ups and downs, filled with losses and gains, and overall emotional challenges. It was very common, in 2014, for people to leave jobs and relationships, struggle with new jobs and relationships and wonder what we are really doing with our lives. It is a good thing to reflect on where you are and what you really truly want. Once you decide what you want, be it a new relationship, to find a more fulfilling job, or to make a true shift in your focus, how do you make that come about? Well, it’s really a matter of your mindset; are you bringing in what you need, or are you deflecting it?
A very positive method for bringing in what you need and want in your life is to ASK your Angels. We all have Guardian Angels and Spirit Guides that work with us on a daily basis. The little voices in your head, you may call your intuition, are actually your Angels and Guides working with you. They are a very important part of you. They are your cheerleaders, your sounding board, and your best friends, especially in times of stress or need. The challenge is, that we often don’t listen to our own inner guidance when we are feeling drama in our lives. We will revert to feelings of fear and ultimately feelings of a loss of control. What is important to remember is that we actually have all we really need right at our fingertips, or within ourselves.
It may sound extremely simplistic, but just remembering to ASK for help, especially from your Angels and Guides, can help put you on the right path. As human beings, we usually will avoid ASKING for help, as we want to appear strong and in control of our lives. However, it actually stops the flow of good things to us if we do not allow ourselves to receive. Giving and receiving is a balance that needs to occur in our lives, and is often one of the most difficult to fathom. We don’t want our peers and family to think that we don’t have it ‘all together’. I’m here to tell you that it actually shows strength to ASK for help.
I challenge you to start to ASK for what you need. Every little thing. Nothing is too small or simple, it’s important to just begin to ASK. This can be as basic as ASKING for green lights all the way when you are running late to an appointment. ASKING for a parking spot near the door, and then adopting a feeling of confidence that it will indeed come through for you. Start to ASK and EXPECT the results you need. Be in the feeling of it, know that it will happen. And when it does, say thank you and be in gratitude that your angels have made things shift for you.
The reason you want to start with the smaller things is that it really helps to improve your confidence. A number of you have already managed to bring things that you needed in a pinch, but have challenges bringing things in a timely fashion, with less stress and drama around it. If you practice with the smaller things, you move into the vibration of giving and receiving, and that vibration allows you to grow your “ASKS” to the point where you can start to feel confident and assured that they will indeed be fulfilled.
The Archangels play a very important role in your ASKS. When you ASK within, contacting your own Guardian Angels and Guides, you may find that things are not working as smoothly as you’d like. This is often due to self-doubt or belief systems surrounding your worthiness of receiving. I suggest that our Archangel Michael, the protector, and the jack of all trades, is a great one to ASK for what you need. You are never taking him away from something more important, as he is omnipresent and can do for everyone all at once. ASK Archangel Michael to be your co-pilot when you travel, even if just a short distance, and you’ll find that your drive is easier, less stressful, and you will arrive in good time. You need to have faith, believe what you need will be there for you, and trust that you are worthy of receiving it.
ASKING your own Angels and Guides for assistance with every little thing will make your life easier and teach you to trust your own intuition and inner guidance. When your needs and wants are bigger than just a parking space, your belief that things will work out as they should needs to be confident and without fear. You need to “know” and “trust” that things will work out, and stay confident. Be in the vibration that what you want, already IS, and be in gratitude. This is also known as manifesting or the law of attraction. Believing what you need is already coming is being in the correct vibration to allow and receive it. ASK for more than enough to meet your needs financially. ASK for the helpful people and opportunities to come into your life. ASK for ease and grace when going through challenges. ASK for gentle catalysts when a big change needs to happen in your life. Start ASKING now, and see how amazing your life can be, with the assistance of your Angels and Guides and the Archangels.
Blessings, Michelle L Eskdale
Power of Thought, by Michelle L Eskdale
Many of us have read books like The Secret that indicate that what you think, you become. Can the power of your thoughts really have that much impact on your reality? I believe so! Just take a look at how it makes a difference to how you feel when you think negative thoughts…how they snowball and soon you are in a sad or angry mood. What you think about, and how you think will impact you both internally and externally.
For example, what typically happens to your mood when you wake up late for work, or an appointment? You start having thoughts about how much worse things are going to get, you spill coffee your clean shirt, adding minutes to your already delayed departure. You trip over the cat, are gruff with the kids, and are short with your spouse, all because you’ve decided you are going to be late today. That’s right, you DECIDED you are going to be late. And you likely also told yourself that you’re going to have a “Bad Day”. Indeed the Universe is listening, and you will…
On the flip side, think about if you woke up late, and you put your trust in your angels to help shave a few minutes off everything you did that morning. You DECIDED that you would have enough time to get things done, you hugged your kids, kissed your spouse and were aware of the cat before you left the house. You are still going to have a good day, because you DECIDED to do so.
So what does this mean to you? Look at how you could make an entire day go better, just because you DECIDED not to let a rough start ruin your day. You have the POWER of THOUGHT to change how you view YOUR world, how you feel about your world, and when you put it out there, the Universe reflects back favourably on you.
The Power of Thought is something you can use for or against someone as well. When we are children, when we hear things like “Why can’t you just listen?”, “How come you are so Stupid” and “You are not living up to your potential”, like our moods, these can temper our attitudes. The Universe doesn’t hear the negatives, only pulls out the facts — so these children will likely be conditioned to not be able to listen, believe they are stupid, and won’t believe they can live up to their potential. By phrasing words in significant ways, we are teaching them what to think about themselves and their abilities.
The Power of Affirmations
A lot of books and audio tapes these days are about Affirmations. What does that mean, and how do they work? It’s all about conditioning. You are telling yourself what to think, what to believe, and how you want to live. The power of repetition makes it ‘real’ in your mind. The same way children learn to believe what they are told about themselves and their abilities. If you constantly tell yourself negative things, you will come out negative. But, turn it around and tell yourself positive things, and lo and behold, you’ll have a more positive outlook on life, yourself and your potential.
Why don’t Affirmations always work? Many of us have tried, one I tried in particular was Louise L Hay’s “Learning to Love Yourself”. I spent some time telling myself in the mirror that “I love you”, and felt very silly. I tried repeating the phrases over and over, and found that really, I wasn’t believing myself. Soon that cassette tape sat on the shelf. What I found actually worked, was “Deciding to be Happy”.
When people would ask me how I was, in my early 20’s, unfortunately I was honest with them. I thought they really wanted to know. Quickly, after sharing my thoughts that I might be coming down with something, or that I was only feeling alright, I started to recognize that people were not asking anymore. Were they no longer interested in me? No, they were not interested in my negative thoughts. When I started responding with “Great, thanks and how are you”, things quickly took a more positive slant. I also felt better, not focusing on an oncoming cold, or financial issues, I just felt the way I said I felt… I DECIDED to feel good.
Envision yourself very healthy, thinking of everything in your body working exactly as it should. No aches, no sadness, no depression, no pains, no weight issues, no aging issues…just beautiful inside and out, and very healthy.
Now think about how you “feel” about that version of yourself? Do you love it more? Do you feel better already? This is how powerful your thoughts are! You have DECIDED to feel good about yourself, your body, your mental state. Wouldn’t you like to feel like this ALL THE TIME? I challenge you to make it happen.
How Do I Change My Thought Patterns;
Just like anything else you’ve ever decided, you have to remind yourself to stay on track. In a Manner of Speaking, create a new habit for yourself. Imagine how happy you are because you feel good. Refuse to focus on what makes you feel bad, and focus only on the good. It’s easy to motivate yourself into this new pattern of thinking, because you just feel better.
When someone asks you how you are, tell them something new. Try a new phrase on for size “I’m brilliant!” “I’m great!” “I’m Happy, and you?” “I’m decidedly Happy”, I’m Excited”, “I’m feeling much better” See how it feels when you say it, how does it reflect on you internally? What do you get from the people you say it to? One of my favorites comes from a friend at work who says “If I was any better, I’d be twins”. .. it makes you laugh, and you know that he either IS happy, or is working on being happy. And really whats the harm in that?
I challenge you to be “Annoyingly Optimistic”
I have often found the people I work with to enjoy their misery. Really, many people are most comfortable there, and therefore, they must enjoy it, don’t you agree? It serves a purpose for them. It gives them attention, it gives them sympathy, and they stay there in their misery. These are the people who do not understand when you say “I’m Great!”…they would likely hear that you, also, are feeling kind of under the weather, cranky or grumpy, so that you can be in legion with them. When you counter with positive thoughts, you can inspire them to wonder, “How does she get to feel great”, but sadly, they’ll often stay in their misery as it serves a purpose.
For the last few years, I’ve been conducting a social experiment. I have been outwardly happy, on Purpose. If you think about it, we do have a Purpose here, and it is to be happy, to find joy in our lives and to bring joy to the lives of others. As a social experiment, I had the opportunity to work with people that were happy to be miserable. Happy to be grumpy, or complain a lot about their lives and the cards they have been dealt. When dealing with them, I’d always throw a little something at them for them to think about. What in their life are they happy about? Due to this behaviour, I had been tagged as “Annoyingly Optimistic”. Whenever something comes up, especially change, that everyone wants to feel negative about, I always take the high road. I always look for the good in things and express that to people. Even if they don’t agree with me right away, they usually see that I have a point, and will often convert their own thinking when I can point out the good side of things. Its an enjoyable experiment that I CHALLENGE you to try. The next time someone tells you something negative, take a moment to look for the silver lining and express it to them. Not only will they feel better knowing there is hope or a positive slant to things, eventually they will begin to believe it as well.
What you put out you get back — The Boomerang Effect
When you focus on Lack, that is what you receive. The Universe hears your statements, and brings more of the same. Reading as many books as we all have, you already know this to be true, but are you putting it to use? When you look at the monthly bills, do you think “how will I manage to pay for these”, or “Why don’t I have enough money”, and you will get what you ask for, you will get what you put out there. The key to the Power of Thought is to think about only what you DO want, not what you DON’T want. If you rephrase your thinking, your self-talk to say “I have more than enough to meet my monthly expenses”, don’t you feel better? When you spend time worrying about something that you DON’T want, you can bring it about.
Take, for example, a good friend of mine. She is a strong believer in Abraham, the spirit channelled by Gerry and Esther Hicks (attached some affirmations, and quotes from Abraham). They believe that whatever you focus on, you can make bigger, stronger, and manifest it to be true. She was diagnosed with uterine fibroids. They were causing her great illness and pain. Whenever she thought about it, all she could think about was them getting bigger, and fearing that outcome. Eventually, they became so big, she had to have a hysterectomy. She told me herself, that she really believes that she made them bigger and less manageable by focusing on them rather than envisioning herself to be healthy. She knows now that with the Power of Thought, she caused her own discomfort and illness.
The Secret also quotes that we are responsible for dis-ease in our bodies. That we dwell on it, imagine it, or focus on it to the point where it can become all encompassing. When we give the illness or condition so much power, we give it more strength and it can indeed “take over”… if you practice modifying your thoughts, you can tell yourself you are healthy, tell yourself that you will stay healthy through the flu season, and be aware of the gift that you give yourself when you can chase away that scratchy throat!
Power of Thought is really exactly that. Your thoughts are so powerful, they define who you are, how you feel and what you will become. You are meant to do great things here, meant to help and heal others, but first you must take the best possible care of yourself! When I talk with people unhappy in their lives, I ask them to remember what they are happy about, how can they focus on those great things in their lives, to make the rest of their concerns less strong.
A Meditation for You;
My body is healthy. I can see ArchAngel Raphael’s beautiful Green light permeating any areas of concern, so I don’t even need to focus on them. My joints move freely without pain, I am free of headaches, stomach aches, and I never get the flu. I am stronger and healthier every single day. I believe that my heart and my mind are happy, and I am free from worries and concerns. I can live my life to the fullest as I am a healthy, happy, human being. And in this state, I am free to give my help and support to others.
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If you will let your dominant intention be to revise and improve the content of the story you tell every day of your life, it is our absolute promise to you that your life will become that ever-improving story. For by the powerful Law of Attraction—the essence of that which is like unto itself is drawn—it must be! — Abraham
Excerpted from the book “Money and the Law of Attraction: Learning to Attract Health, Wealth and Happiness” # 244
The best you can do for anyone is to thrive fully and be willing to explain to anyone who asks how it is that you are thriving, and what it is that you’ve discovered—and then, just relax and trust that all truly is well. — Abraham
Excerpted from the workshop in Buffalo, NY on Tuesday, May 20th, 2003 # 245
We’re asking you to trust in the Well-being. In optimism there is magic. In pessimism there is nothing. In positive expectation there is thrill and success. In pessimism or awareness of what is not wanted, there is nothing. What you’re wanting to do is redefine your relationship with the Stream. We do not ask you to look at something that is black and call it white. We do not ask you to see something that is not as you want it to be and pretend that it is. What we ask you to do is practice moving your gaze. Practice changing your perspective. Practice talking to different people. Practice going to new places. Practice sifting through the data for the things that feel like you want to feel and using those things to cause you to feel a familiar place. In other words, we want you to feel familiar in your joy. Familiar in your positive expectation, familiar in your knowing that all is well, because this Universe will knock itself out giving you evidence of that Well-being once you find that place. We have enjoyed this interaction immensely. There is great love here for you. We are complete. — Abraham
Excerpted from the workshop in San Rafael, CA on Wednesday, March 4th, 1998 # 249
You’re always getting a perfect vibrational match to what you predominantly give your attention to. But you’ve got to make the best of it. You’ve got to vibrate slightly different from where you are if you are going to improve where you are. You can’t keep taking score of where your business is or your relationship is or your body is without continuing to create it as it is. To make improvement, you’ve got to reach for a different thought. — Abraham
Excerpted from the workshop in Tampa, FL on Saturday, December 6th, 2003 # 255
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wo3PinDwqPE – Abraham on the Power of Thoughts.
A Few Other Inspirational Quotes:
- Our subconscious minds have no sense of humor, play no jokes and cannot tell the difference between reality and an imagined thought or image. What we continually think about eventually will manifest in our lives.
– Sidney Madwed
- Remember, happiness doesn’t depend upon who you are or what you have; it depends solely upon what you think.
– Dale Carnegie
- The game of life is the game of boomerangs. Our thoughts, deeds and words return to us sooner or later, with astounding accuracy.
– Florence Shinn
- The law of attraction attracts to you everything you need, according to the nature of your thought life. Your environment and financial condition are the perfect reflection of your habitual thinking. Thought rules the world.
– Joseph Edward Murphy
- The person who sends out positive thoughts activates the world around him positively and draws back to himself positive results.
– Norman Vincent Peale
- You and I are not what we eat; we are what we think.
– Walter Anderson
- The world we have created is a product of our thinking; it cannot be changed without changing our thinking.
– Albert Einstein